That grip you have on your self identity . . . has a grip on you.
To better your position you have to be open to a totally new reality. If your grip is tight, that new reality will never show itself to you.
If your desire is to hold on to (grip) what you now have that drives your life, settle down for more of the same. But, if that old record title ‘Is That All There Is?’ keeps getting your attention, you might try this . . .
Abandoning the security of your past. Take control of what you allow to remain in your life and become the ruler of what you will allow into your life in the future.
If you have a grip . . .
make sure it is around only those things you cherish.