Let’s call the picture on the left ‘Competition’ and the one on the right ‘Cooperation’.
As we now take center stage in our isolation, how we accept ourselves matters greatly. ‘Competition’ (picture #1) is trying to make sense of all the injustices imposed on her and perhaps pondering worst-case scenarios the future may have in store.
‘Cooperation’ (picture #2) is accepting herself in the present moment. Experiencing peace, accepting reality and in silent oneness allowing growth of the Infinite kind.
#1 could be watching the news, piling up more and more negativity, as if it were her duty to memorize all the problem spots and the metrics associated with each one.
#2 is open to the highest and best possibilities – and also to the tiny but exquisite gems that appear but are unnoticed because of a person’s immersion in grief. Little ideas like how to handle mentally what is going on around us. Calling people who are infected ‘pilgrims’ or ‘founders’. Euphemisms, sure, but they change unhealthy thinking patterns to owners which can actually bring about positive change.
If the two women were all of a sudden six feet apart, what would ‘Competition’ say to ‘Cooperation’? And what might ‘Cooperation’ say to ‘Competition’? What does a prisoner say to God?
And really, this whole idea of ‘accepting’ yourself is incorrect in that it assumes we can’t change or adapt. Humans adapt almost overnight. Remember 9/11? Perhaps the message this virus brings is about change and adaptation.
In closing, two suggestions . . . first, empathy can take us to levels of being too sensitive, where the empathizer internalizes the problems of the other and becomes infected themself. Compassion is a great substitute for empathy.
Second, I fervently wish I had the words of love, caring, understanding and compassion to the extent where it really made a difference – to everyone. I realize that is far from reality. So I ask of you, if there are words that you would love to hear, expressions that would actually ease the discomfort, ideas that would bring you hope and peace, please – let them be known to all of us.
All the best to everyone . . .